-I think there's a tendency to idealize people that we don't know very well. It's easy to take the surface of what a person presents when you hardly see them and genearlize that into being who they "really are"...and then when you're closer to a person, it's easier to nitpick and judge them becuase you see all of their imperfections. It's really easy to discount people and take them for granted the better you know them. Or perhaps a less cynical restatement is that maybe it's worth it, with the people you are close to, to remember who they "try" to be, and what that face they show to "the world" is. I really think in a lot of ways that the way we act around strangers is a good indication of the way we really are inside (or at least I'm that way), and so it helps to balance out the picture when it gets too easy to just build up a person's faults.
(Then again, there are a lot of counterexamples to that, like when you judge a person especially harshly when you first meet them. So that theory isn't really all it's cracked up to be, I guess. It made sense when I first thought of it, though.)
-I've had a lot of conversations this week that have gone something like, someone else says
"Yeah I was talking to so-and-so the other day, and...." or "Yeah, so-and-so and I did ____" - where the so-and-so has actually been ME, and the other person has forgotten and for some reason substituted in someone else. It's starting to feel a bit like that week when a bunch of people, none of whom knew each other, kept accidentally calling me Jessica. Heh.
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