It's really hard to know how to deal with people sometimes.
I can't live people's lives for them; I can't be made to take responsibility for other people's actions, and it's just ...hard... to deal with people who seem ready and willing to take any difficult situation of theirs and make it somehow my fault.
I used to take it really personally when people would do that to me, and I have wasted a lot of emotional energy on situations like that just by letting myself get pulled into those situations and having to take on personal responsibility for things that didn't involve me at all.
I'm not going to do it anymore. For anyone.
It certainly could be that I interpret sentences more harshly than they're intended. (Not "maybe" - I know that I do at least occasionally.) But there's also definitely a difference between saying "Could you please help me do this?" and "You need to do xyz so I don't mess up again."
So I guess what I'm really getting at is:
1) It's okay to mess up. There doesn't have to be a blame assignment every time something goes a bit wrong. Admitting that you're fallible will actually make life less terrifying in the long run...
2) For goodness' sake - politeness, politeness, politeness!
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